therapy with lauren
A new way to feel more secure in your relationships, without losing yourself, is coming on Wednesday 25th November 2026.
It Starts Within: Healing Anxious Attachment
A programme for people stuck in the anxious-in-love loop: overthinking every text, analysing every change in their partner's behaviour, needing to hear “we're okay” on repeat and slowly losing themselves trying to keep someone close.
Over 8 weeks, you'll explore the Authenticity Framework to help you understand your attachment patterns, feel less consumed by relationship anxiety and begin trusting yourself again — so you can start navigating uncertainty, honour your own needs and stay connected to who YOU are!
Be the first through the door when It Starts Within opens…
Here's what to know before we begin:
Joining the waitlist is free and gives you exclusive 48-hour early access to enrol from Wednesday 25th November at 9:00am (UK time). When you enrol, you’ll also receive your bonus ‘Come Back to Yourself’ — MY ABSOLUTE GO TO 5-minute anxiety cooldown that help's you to press PAUSE on the anxiety before it starts to spiral!
The programme begins the week commencing 4th January 2027, so you can start the new year ready to take steps towards feeling more secure in love, without losing yourself! ❤️
Does this sound like you ???
You feel EXHAUSTED by how anxious and consumed you become in your relationships - overthinking every message, analysing every little change in their behaviour or needing constant reassurance that everything is okay.
You know you’re doing it. You know you need to focus on yourself and stop overthinking, but when the fear of losing them kicks in, you can’t seem to switch your mind off.
You’re terrified of losing them, but somewhere along the way, you started losing yourself. You look in the mirror and barely recognise the person looking back at you.
You just want to feel secure in love without constantly questioning your worth or abandoning yourself to keep someone close.
Join the waitlist so you can start loving without losing yourself…
If you’re tired of feeling consumed by relationship anxiety, you don't have to wait until 2027 to start learning how to settle the panic when a text goes unanswered, quieten the spirals and reconnect with yourself...
Join the waitlist for free and get 48-hour early access to enrol in It Starts Within.
If you decide to enrol, you'll also receive “Come Back to Yourself” my anxiety cooldown practice so you can learn how to settle the panic when they go quiet, plus you'll get an introduction to my Authenticity Framework to help you start understanding your spirals.
Soooo, what actually is It Starts Within?
come take a sneak peek...🤫
It Starts Within is an 8-week live programme for people with anxious attachment who feel exhausted by how consumed they become in their relationships and want to stop abandoning themselves to keep someone close, so that you can FINALLY feel secure in love without losing who you are.
Maybe you've read ‘Attached’, taken the attachment quizzes or spent hours scrolling through Insta for tips on becoming more secure. Maybe you've even asked ChatGPT or Google how to stop having an anxious attachment style, only to close the tab feeling even worse!
You've tried keeping yourself busy until they reply, journalling, setting boundaries, practicing breathing techniques and telling yourself "everything is going to be okay".
And yeppppp, you guessed it… you're still caught in the same cycles, with relationship anxiety taking up wayyyyyy more of your life than you want it to.
Because healing anxious attachment isn't just about learning more techniques to manage your anxiety!
It's about understanding your patterns, reconnecting with the parts of yourself you've lost touch with and learning how to navigate relationships without abandoning who you are.
That's the journey we'll begin inside It Starts Within, as we work through four key shifts to help you move from feeling consumed by relationship anxiety towards feeling more secure in love, without losing yourself along the way...
Here’s what’s waiting for you…
1. Understanding your anxious attachment
We'll explore how your attachment patterns develop, why they show up in your relationships and how past relational experiences can shape your responses to stress, conflict and uncertainty. You'll begin to make sense of your reactions and understand why you might keep finding yourself caught in the same painful cycles.
2. Recognising your patterns and learning to respond differently
From overthinking and reassurance-seeking to people-pleasing and putting your own needs aside, we'll explore the anxious attachment traps that can keep you feeling stuck. And you'll discover how your nervous system responds when relationship anxiety kicks in and learn practical ways to soothe yourself to begin building a greater sense of emotional safety.
3. Reconnecting with YOU
When so much of your energy goes into keeping someone close, it's easy to lose touch with yourself along the way. We'll explore your wants, needs, values and the different parts of you that show up in relationships, helping you reconnect with who you are beneath the anxiety, fear and urge to seek reassurance.
4. Learning how to love without losing yourself
And finally we'll explore how to honour your needs, communicate more openly and establish boundaries without automatically putting someone else's feelings or approval before your own. Begin learning how to navigate relationship challenges while staying connected to yourself, so you can build relationships where you can feel close to someone else without abandoning who you are.
You’ll still have those anxious days, because you’re human!
The difference is, you’ll begin to understand what’s happening and have the tools to help you come back to yourself when relationship anxiety takes over.
The face behind It Starts Within👋
Hiiiii! I’m Lauren, a BACP Accredited Psychotherapist with over half a decade of experience working with relational trauma and attachment.
Time and time again, my work has shown me how our experiences in relationships can leave us not only struggling to feel secure with others, but feeling completely disconnected from who WE are too!
And yet, so much of the advice around anxious attachment focuses on changing our behaviours: setting better boundaries, communicating more assertively, being less “needy”...
But what about the disconnection from ourselves that sits beneath it all? What happens when you've spent so long trying to keep someone close that you've lost touch with who YOU are?
That's why I created It Starts Within — because I don’t believe healing anxious attachment is simply about learning to set better boundaries. I believe it’s about reconnecting with who YOU are, so you can navigate your relationships from a place of authentic connection, rather than self-abandonment.
Frequently Asked Questions
Does joining the waitlist mean I have to buy?
Not at all! Joining the waitlist is completely free, and there’s absolutely no obligation to enrol. It simply means you’ll be the first to hear about It Starts Within and get 48-hour early access before enrolment opens to everyone else.
What happens when I join the waitlist?
You’ll simply add your details and you’re in! That’s it! No complicated process, no pressure to do anything else. Just the reassurance that you’re in the loop and will be the first to know. Then throughout November, I’ll be sharing gentle insights and practical tips around anxious attachment, relationships and reconnecting with yourself.
Come Wednesday 25th November at 9:00am (UK time), you’ll receive your exclusive link to enrol in It Starts Within, giving you 48 hours to join before enrolment opens to everyone else.
If you decide to enrol, you’ll receive my free Come Back to Yourself guided 5-minute anxiety cooldown, along with an introduction to the Authenticity Framework and the programme modules, so you can get a feel for the approach we’ll explore together.
Is this therapy?
No — It Starts Within is an educational programme, not individual therapy or group therapy.
Although the programme draws on my experience as a therapist, it isn’t a substitute for individualised mental health support or therapy. If you’re currently having therapy, you can consider whether this programme would fit alongside the support you are already receiving.
*If you're in crisis or worried about your safety, please contact your GP, call NHS 111 or Samaritans on 116 123*
What if things feel too much or I find something triggering in the programme?
First of all, your safety and wellbeing is my number one priority! ❤️
In our first week, we’ll be agreeing how we can look after ourselves and one another, including the boundaries of our sessions. You can take things at your own pace and decide what feels right for you.
If the programme does bring up any difficult feelings for you, you can pause, take a step back or choose not to engage with that part of the programme.
This programme is about gently reconnecting with yourself, not forcing yourself to confront anything before you feel ready.
What if I don’t want to be part of a group?
That’s absolutely okay! You don’t have to actively participate in a group or share your personal experiences to benefit from It Starts Within.
Although this programme will be delivered to a group, it is simply educational teaching. So feel free to keep your camera off, stay quiet during live sessions, simply listen or catch up with the recordings in your own time.
You can engage with the programme in a way that feels comfortable for you. There’s no pressure to speak up, share your story or explain anything personal. You can take what you need from the sessions while keeping your own experiences private.
YOUR INVESTMENT
Your next step towards loving without losing yourself
The investment for It Starts Within is £197.
This includes the full 8-week programme - including weekly 60-minute live calls led by me, a workbook and additional resources to support your journey to breaking anxious attachment cycles.
Pay in full or choose a payment plan of 2 monthly payments of £98.50 — the first when you enrol and the second one month later.
No pressure to commit now — just the opportunity to explore whether It Starts Within feels like the right next step for you.
You don't have to keep losing yourself trying to feel secure in love...
Join the free waitlist for It Starts Within and take the first step towards feeling more secure in your relationships, without losing who you are.
Because healing anxious attachment starts within 🪞✨
I can’t wait to welcome you inside!
